You are too serious and may be missing out on unique opportunities and luck. On the other hand, if you don't think too rigidly, you may become more aware of opportunities. One thing you should start with is changing your mindset. Clear the imprint that you can't seize chances without hard work, and change your thinking to see luck as something that comes around. Just by changing your mindset a little, changes will naturally happen in your actions, and you will be able to notice opportunities that you would have previously overlooked.